Sunday, April 12, 2015
A Mother’s Greatest Pain - Poem
The terrible news was just too much for her to bear
Her tears poured down her face like a severe rain storm
She fell to her knees
Too weak to stand on her feet
No strength. No understanding. Her soul left her body.
They Killed Her Son
They took her everything
They took her precious seed
They took her pride and joy
They not only took her child, but
They took her sole reason to live
They took away her smile
Her happiness was replaced with sadness
Her eyes couldn't hide the pain and the grief that engulfed her
They killed her son
The one that she raised
The one that she loved with all of her heart and soul
They took an innocent life “just because”
No regard for his life
They told nothing but lies just to cover their asses
Covering up what REALLY happened
There’s no excuse for all of this killing going on
Taking the lives of our black men
This evilness has got to stop
This isn't a game!
Taking another’s person’s life just because you can
It shows your TRUE character
It shows just what kind of person that you TRULY are
It shows that you've got some real deep issues within
You’re supposed to protect and serve all of us, right?
But it seems like that’s one big joke!
A joke that African-Americans don’t find very funny
And to think that you’re somebody’s son
You’re somebody’s husband
You’re somebody’s father
You’re somebody’s uncle, cousin, friend, or associate
But do they really know the REAL you?
Do they know the wickedness that runs through your veins?
Do they know your hate for black men?
Do they know how evil you are?
Do they know that you have no heart and no soul?
You took an oath to do what’s right, but instead,
You get off on shooting and killing black men
Oh, I forgot, he’s just another nigger, right?
To all of the mothers out there
I know this is difficult and hard to digest
You shouldn't be burying your child
Grieve as much as you have to, and may
Peace be with you in your time of loss
I pray for justice in your situation. Real justice!
Written by Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)
Thursday, April 9, 2015
Ladies, I don’t know about y’all, but this is my kind of eye candy. I’ll take eye candy that’s pleasing to the soul over eye candy that’s pleasing to the eyes any day.
You’re my kind of eye candy!
A man that can stimulate a woman’s soul
Not because of your good looks, but because
You’re much more than the natural eyes can see
You’re a rare one indeed
Communication is only one of your greatest strengths
A man of your word
And responsible too
What real woman wouldn't admire a man like you?
Respectful, considerate, and very attentive to my needs
Amazing and unique qualities that make you stand out from the rest
A mature man who’s confident in himself
Oh yes! Self-confidence looks good on you
Knows how to handle business
Not afraid to take risks
Positive, encouraging, and one hell of a motivator
A pleasing personality
Genuine in everything that you do. Yep, that’s totally you!
A great listener!
That’s such a turn on to me
So compassionate and kind
Desirable is an understatement
You’re a breath of fresh air!
Sexy on the inside, a woman’s dream!
Easy to talk to
That’s a beautiful gift with which you've been blessed
Easy to get along with
What a fine gentleman you are
You bring joy to my heart
You’re eye candy to my soul
You’re the kind of man that I’m attracted to
A man that stands out from the rest
Not trying to be like anybody else
You have a strong identity.
Trustworthy. I fully respect that in a man.
Romantic and passionate, too
Not many others can compare to you
There’s absolutely no duplicating you!
You've got that special something
You've got the full package, baby.
You’re the man!
A real man!
A loving man!
The ideal man!
Written by Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
You’re thinking to yourself: “I didn't sign up for this shit!” Married, but feeling lonely. Married, but thinking about cheating. Married, but dealing with more than your fair share of everyday life situations. In your marriage vows, you promised to love your spouse for better or for worse, but sometimes it’s much easier said than done, right?
All marriages have their challenges, some bigger than others. For some odd reason, when we get married, we think that our lives are going to be this perfect union until reality shows us something different. In the midst of working, going to school, taking care of the kids, trying to please our spouses, and handling all of the responsibilities of home life, things can get extremely overwhelming AND sometimes we feel like we've lost all control. Unfortunately, when we experience pressure that we’re not used to, our attitude, behavior, and the way we think can be all over the place. Our emotions tend to get the best of us.
As humans, we can sometimes be selfish without even realizing that we’re doing it. It’s all about OUR wants and OUR needs. But have you ever stopped to think about what your spouse is going through, too? Although you’re married, you have to remember that you’re both individual people. You both have your own personal challenges and struggles. It’s life! Nobody’s exempt from issues.
Like reading a good fiction, romance novel, cheating takes you to a place where you feel fulfilled, even if it’s temporary. For that period of time you feel free! Free from the realities of the real world. That leads me to what I would like to talk about next.
Loneliness and Cheating in Your Relationship
So you’re feeling lonely, huh? I get it! Your spouse isn't showing you the attention that you desire. Your spouse isn't spending enough time with you. Your spouse doesn't make love to you the way that they used to. Your spouse is SO busy that they miss out on the things that are TRULY important to you. Your spouse just doesn't seem to be interested in you like they used to be. You just don’t feel appreciated, and communication is nonexistent. And when you DO try to talk, it just ends up in a heated argument over the smallest things.
With all of this “stuff” going on in your life, temptation is having its way with you. You’re tempted to do some things that you know aren't right. But what the hell, right? You’re sick of this crap and you need a break from it all.
Let Me Ask You a Question
Have you even tried to communicate your feelings and thoughts to your spouse? Do they know what and how you’re feeling and/or thinking about? Listen, if you don’t communicate what you’re feeling, it’s not fair to your mate. It’s just not! If you want something from your mate, you have the responsibility to do your part. Open your mouth and speak up! You can’t expect your mate to know what’s going on in that mind of yours if you don’t say anything.
No matter how difficult or painful it may be, you have to talk about it. Communication can save a relationship from going down a road of pain, hurt, regret, anger, and betrayal. If you’re feeling lonely, communicate that to your partner. Set aside some quiet time where there won’t be any distractions. Make sure that you have their full attention, keep eye contact, and ensure that they fully understand the feelings that you’re experiencing. Don’t down play what you’re feeling. Your mate needs to know that you need more of them. Whether it is more time, sex, attention, etc… it needs to be brought to the table.
Seeking Comfort Elsewhere Won’t Solve Anything
Don’t get caught up! Temporary pleasure can turn out to be your worst nightmare. Don’t become a victim simply because you want to feel good for the moment. You may find yourself in a situation that you never saw coming. What you thought was temporary, is now YOUR secret. Irresponsible choices can cost you big time!
Think it Through
Could you REALLY live with yourself if you cheated on your partner?
Would it be worth losing the person that you know you love and care about? Would it be worth possibly losing your family? Would it be worth destroying his/her trust in you? Would it be worth having to start all over again with someone who doesn't even compare to your current spouse? Would it be worth it to see those tears in his/her eyes? Would it be worth seeing the pain that you've caused on his/her face? Would it be worth it to destroy everything that you've both built together? Would it be worth it to break their heart over your selfishness and weakness? Would it be worth it to betray the man or woman that you promised to be faithful to? Or furthermore, would you be able to forgive yourself, if you gave your spouse an STD? Always remember this: When you decide to cheat, you’re taking a huge risk. A risk that could turn your life upside down.
Some things just aren't worth it. Think! Think about what your choices could do to you, your partner, and maybe even your family. I encourage you to be mature enough to make the right choices. The wrong choices can literally ruin your life, and to me, ruining your life over a quick fix is just NOT worth it! Not at all.
Written by Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)
Monday, April 6, 2015
Your words were SO captivating
I believed every word that you told me
All the words that I wanted to hear
But you knew that, didn't you?
You knew I had low self-esteem
You knew I didn't love myself
You knew I was young and naive
You knew that I was just looking for love
But instead, I got wrapped up into you
I lost myself in you
I stopped doing all the things that I loved to do
I poured all of my energy into you
Put myself on the back burner
Just to take care of you
Just to be hurt, disappointed, and used like a fool
I listened and held on to your every word
Although I knew they were ALL lies
My heart ached to the core
My tears flowed like a rapid river
And yet I stayed and allowed you to hurt me
Over and over and over again
I allowed you to mistreat me
I allowed you to disrespect me
I allowed you to steal MY joy and MY peace
I allowed you to change the course of MY life
Literally almost destroyed MY life
You told me that you loved me
But your actions told a different story
I clearly couldn't compete with your addiction to drugs
No matter how loving I was
No matter how much I supported you
No matter how much I gave more and more of myself to you
Crack cocaine had me beat
My commitment to you just wasn't enough
After years of broken promises and broken dreams
I found the courage and strength to let you go
That was the best thing I could have ever done
I was finally free!
Free from all of your lies
Free from trying to change a grown man
I was finally FREE!
Free from the headaches
Free from all of the hurt and pain
Free from feeling like I wasn't enough
Free from all of the hell that I allowed you to put me through
Free from a man that didn't even love himself
In the midst of trying to save you
I somehow lost myself in you
But thankfully, I was able to push through
And love myself enough to know what I deserved,
Much better than what I was settling for
I’m a way better me
I love myself from the inside out
And I fully understand that
You can’t change anybody!
I've learned to love myself first
Take care of myself
Be good to myself
Protect myself from people who don’t mean me any good
Be mindful of who I give my heart to
And never ever settle for somebody
Who’s not willing to love you back the way you love them
It is such a waste of your time!
Time that you’ll never get back.
No bitterness. No resentments.
But a POWERFUL lesson learned that I’m not willing to repeat.
- Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)