Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Dating Advice for Women by Stephanie Lahart

So, you hate being single and you don’t understand why you can’t find the right man to share your life with. Every time you think you've found “the one,” he ends up being just like the others you've had before. You've questioned yourself, “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of man? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I find a man that will respect and love me? Why do I attract men that like to cheat, lie, abuse me, and treat me like shit?”

Well, this is where I would like to offer you some powerful food-for-thought. But first, I need you to have an open mind so that you will be able to embrace what I’m about to say. You may be in a vulnerable position at this time, and you may not even want to face YOUR truth, but I encourage you to keep reading. This may be the day that you break free in your mind and spirit.

Food-For-Thought just for YOU:
I need you to take a good look at yourself. How do you REALLY feel about yourself? I need you to be honest when answering this question. Here’s the reason why: When you have low self-esteem, you tend to think that you have to accept anything in a relationship. You feel like you can’t do any better. You also feel like you can change that man, but I’m here to tell you, you can’t. You overlook and/or make excuses for why he does what he does. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you do that?

Why do you feel that it’s okay to allow somebody to abuse you? Why do you put up with him staying out all night long? Talking badly to you? Why do you allow him to control you? Why are you afraid to speak up? Why do you stay with somebody who makes you sad and miserable? Why do you subject yourself to emotional distress? Why, why, why?

You may say that you don’t have low self-esteem, but I need you to take another look at yourself and go deep down in your soul. What happened to you? What have you seen? Something in your life made you think that this is okay.

If you love yourself, there are certain things that you just won’t put up with. Self-love is powerful! You respect yourself. You take care of yourself. You’re good to yourself, and you won’t accept anything less from others. Why? Because you value who YOU are.

There’s nothing wrong with being single. Embrace being single and having a peace of mind. What’s the use of being in a relationship if you’re not being mentally and physically fulfilled? A healthy relationship is a beautiful thing. It doesn't consist of drama, hurt, pain, confusion, lies, cheating, beatings, being mentally drained, etc. That’s NOT love. A person can speak the words, “I love you” but it means nothing without action behind it. You shouldn't have to beg for love. It should come naturally, if it’s the real deal.

Ladies, you have to love yourself first. I can’t stress that enough. If you’re feeling lonely, dealing with self-esteem issues, trying to get over your ex, searching to feel whole, trying to fill some kind of void, etc… It starts with YOU. A man won’t fix the problem. All it will do is open the door once again for a dead-end relationship filled with many disappointments. I’ll say it again, embrace being single. Stop being in a rush or hard up to be with a man. Give yourself peace! Slow down, think wisely, and choose a man that’s worth your love. Stop giving your love to men who don’t deserve it. Work on yourself from the inside out. Do it for YOU! You’ll be better off in the long run. Save yourself the heartache and headache. It’s not worth it, but you are! 

- Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet) 

Monday, August 11, 2014

Stephanie Lahart Poems | Verbal Abuse Poems for Him and Her | Verbally Abused Poems | Emotionally Abused Poems

Who Told You Poem by Stephanie Lahart 

Who told you that you were worthless?
Who told you that nobody would ever love you?
Who told you that you’d never amount to anything?
Who told you that you weren't pretty or handsome enough?
Who told you that NOBODY cares for you?

Always compared to others.
Never could do anything right.
Ridiculed and talked down upon.
You were a loser in their eyes.
Unwanted, unloved, and alone.

Yearning to be loved and accepted.
Yearning to be hugged.
Yearning to hear kind words.
Yearning to feel important.
Yearning to feel whole and complete.

Life has been a complicated road for you.
Mentally abused from the ones who should love you.
I know it’s been a painful road,
But I encourage you to forgive, heal and let it go.
Do it for you!

I know that words hurt and they cut deep,
But you've made it thus far!
Don’t you dare give people that much power over you.
Remember who YOU are! Know that YOU are worthy!
Always hold your head up high!

Forgive, heal, and let it go.
You've got a healthy life to live.
Rid yourself of hate, resentments, and anger.
Live a joyful life!
Live your life in peace... Complete peace!

It’s time!

Written by Stephanie Lahart
California Author and Poet 

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Thursday, August 7, 2014

Stephanie Lahart Poems | Poems About Drugs Destroying Families | Poems About Drug Addiction for Him and Her | Inspirational Poems Drug Addiction | Drug Poems for Teens and Youth

DRUGS Poem by Stephanie Lahart

All you do is ruin people’s lives!
You erase every dream.
Break up and destroy families.
Take away any and all self-esteem.
Cause people to lie, steal,
And subject themselves to do just about anything.


And, sadly to say, some young kids too.

Giving up their body,
Being used and abused.
Selling their soul for a quick fix.
Addicted and can’t find their way out.
A slave to do whatever it wants them to do.



Families are hurting.
Praying for a miracle.
Asking themselves “what went wrong?”
Some, taking all of the blame.
Can’t seem to forgive themselves.
Anguish. Heartbreak. Disappointed.

Nobody wins!
Drugs have control and they won’t let you go.
Trapped in your own mind,
No strength to break free.
You feel you’re a lost cause, so let you be.


If you haven’t used drugs, don’t even start.
As you can see, drugs will tear your life apart,
Or take your life altogether.
There’s NOTHING fun about using drugs,
Don’t believe the hype.

DRUGS only
And destroy lives!

Think about your actions.
Think about the choices you make.
Think about what you’re getting ready to do.
Think it all the way through.

Drugs aren't your friend!
It won’t make things better!
It won’t make things go away.
It won’t make you happy.
It will simply take everything away that you love and care about.

Think it all the way through.
There’s nothing in this for you but destruction.

Live your life wisely!
Be good to yourself!
Take care of yourself.
Love yourself!
But if you're not strong enough to do it on your own,
I encourage you to get help...
Do it for YOU.

Make no mistake about it...
YOU count!

Written by Stephanie Lahart
California Author and Poet

Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! #StephanieLahart

Friday, August 1, 2014

Stephanie Lahart Poems | Poems About Relationships in Trouble | Relationship Problems Love Poems for Her | Poems About Relationships Falling Apart

You and I Poem by Stephanie Lahart 

I miss the way we used to be.
Respected one another’s feelings.

Out and about,
Always trying something new.
Living life and creating memorable memories.
Lengthy conversations about our life together.
We were truly something special.

Supportive in every way possible.
Believed in one another,
Nothing could come between us.
We meant everything to each other.
What happened to our special love?

I want to feel what I used to feel.
I want us back again.
I know it’s still there.
I know we both still care.
You and I will rise above it all!

We will have courage.
We will be each other’s strength.
We will remind ourselves of who WE are.
We are one.
We were meant to be, so we shall stand together.

Nothing can stop us, but us.
Giving up on us is not an option.
Circumstances won’t get the best of us.
We've got this! We've got each other!
Deep down inside of us, we've got genuine love.

Nothing or nobody can stop us, baby!
Let’s rise to the top!
Let’s show them what we’re made of!
Our relationship is many things,

But most importantly, it is LOVE!

Written by Stephanie Lahart
California Author and Poet  

Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! #StephanieLahart