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The poetry lover in you will appreciate Stephanie Lahart’s intense,
emotional, and raw poems. MATURE Audience
is filled with captivating love poems, relationship poems, life poems, raw
poetry, erotica poetry, and romance poetry. This book of poetry is sure to keep
you turning the pages for more.
Stephanie Lahart allowed her creative juices to flow in
order to bring these poems to life. Even if you haven’t experienced it
personally, these poems are articulated in a way that’ll allow you to connect
to each and every poem. Fearlessness is what Stephanie Lahart exudes, writing
each poem without limitations.
If you enjoy reading poems that are relatable, diverse, and provocative,
then MATURE Audience is the perfect
choice for your reading pleasure.
This is one of the passages that I wrote in my second book, Teens Matter Most. I have so much love for our teens! That's why it was so very important for me to write this book. Our teens need and deserve proper guidance, love, support, and somebody that's going to tell it like it is without sugar-coating the truth. You do NOT want your children to learn the hard way. Keep it real with them!
We can't keep sitting back and doing nothing to save our teens! We as parents have an obligation to do right by them and give them the tools that they need to do well in life. It's our job to teach them everything that they need to know so that they won't get caught up. It starts at home! We can't afford to be lazy parents. We need to parent like it really matters...Because it does! They need us y'all. It's time to step it up so that they will have a fair chance. Set good examples for them to follow! Trust me, they are watching you more than you think. Be parents that they can be proud of and speak highly of. Set them up to go in the right direction! You'll be glad that you did!
And now I introduce to you: CHOICES ( From my book Teens Matter Most) Available on Amazon.com.
Choices, Choices, Choices. Let’s face it, we all have to
make them. If you think about it, everything that we do starts with a choice.
Let me give you some quick examples of what I’m talking about.
We make everyday choices about what we’re
going to eat, what we’re going to wear, deciding what time we’re going to
work-out, what time we’re going to wake up or go to sleep, etc.
Now that I have your attention, I would
like to discuss important things that you may have to make decisions about. As
teens, you are faced with so many things on a daily basis and it can sometimes
be overwhelming, exciting, and scary too.
I want to discuss your friends. Be
mindful of the people that you call your friends. If people are truly your
friends, they will want to see you do well in life, and they won’t try to put
you in a position where you can get into trouble, hurt yourself or others, or
completely ruin your life by making a bad decision that will cost you big time!
Choose your friends wisely. Try to pick
out people that share your same interests. It would also be wise to hang out
with people who have good morals and values. I know that some teens don’t give
it any thought, but you should. Be careful of the company that you keep.
I’ll leave you with this to think about
regarding friends: Make sure that they TRULY like you and have your best
interest at heart. A true friend will be honest with you and bold enough to
tell you when you’re wrong. They don’t want to see you go down the wrong path.
These are some things that you should
also consider when you’re deciding on friendship: Are they trustworthy, honest,
dependable, supportive, selfless, a good listener, respectful of themselves and
others? There are so many things to consider. Also, here’s a quick reminder:
Genuine friends won’t be jealous of you. Please keep that in mind. I know
you’ll make the right choice.
Okay, let’s talk about drugs and alcohol.
I’ll try not to get too long-winded on you, but this is an important topic.
We all know that if you’re under the age
of 21, you shouldn't be drinking or using drugs. But the fact of the matter is,
teens are drinking and using drugs. I will
share this with you: Underage drinking and drug-use is irresponsible and you
risk the chance of putting yourself in some compromising positions.
Underage drinking and drug-use can cause
the following: Death, addictions, mood changes, getting arrested, getting lower
grades in school, poor performance in your extracurricular activities, etc. I
want you to think smartly! You can’t afford not to.
Don’t be pressured or fooled into thinking
that everybody’s doing it or that it’s the thing to do. That’s not true. It’s a personal choice and you don’t have to
be a part of it. Choices, Choices, Choices! It’s a part of life and I want YOU
to make the best ones. You have more important things to worry about, let’s not
add more trouble to your plate. Your plate is already full.
Do you, or somebody that you know, like
to: shoplift, steal vehicles, burglarize homes, fight, and/or keep up trouble?
Let me give you something to REALLY think about.
This kind of behavior will destroy you
and your life! Some of you may be saying, “Not me, I've never been caught!” Or
some of you may be saying, “It’s cool or fun!” You may think it’s all fun and
games now, but what IF…
Could you see yourself in juvenile hall?
Or, if you've already been there, done that, do you remember what it was like?
I don’t know about you, but I wouldn't want to be locked up being told what to
do. They have complete control over you and there’s nothing you can do about
it. You have to follow their rules. Period, end of story.
If you continue on the road that you’re
going down, you’ll find yourself in jail and/or prison. I want you to imagine
being there for a second. I mean REALLY imagine. I don’t know about you, but
I’d be scared to death being in those cells with people from all walks of life.
If you don’t know, SO many awful things go on behind those walls. I mean awful
things! Some people get raped, beat up, and/or killed. You don’t have any
don’t think you would enjoy taking showers out in the open with total strangers.
I don’t think you would enjoy sitting on toilets that everybody else is sitting
on. I don’t think you would like the food that they provide you. I don’t think
you would enjoy the fact that you have to share a cell with somebody that you don’t
even know. I don’t think you would like other inmates taking or stealing your
I don’t want this to happen to you. You
don’t want to make a choice that will literally ruin your life. Think about
your actions and how it can cost you. Could you imagine standing in front of a
Judge and he sentences you to LIFE without parole? Imagine hearing the words: I
sentence you to: 10 to LIFE, 15 to LIFE, 25 to LIFE, LIFE without the
possibility of parole, or DEATH.
I’m pretty sure shoplifting, stealing vehicles,
burglarizing homes, fighting, and starting trouble doesn't seem so fun now.
Your life is worth more than that. Think about that the next time you even
think to do something that you know isn't right. It’s your life! Make it count
for something great! Make something of yourself!
to yourself: “I didn't sign up for this shit!” Married, but feeling lonely.
Married, but thinking about cheating. Married, but dealing with more than your fair share of everyday
life situations. In your marriage vows, you promised to love your spouse for
better or for worse, but sometimes it’s much
easier said than done, right?
have their challenges, some bigger than others. For some odd reason, when we
get married, we think that our lives are going to be this perfect union until reality shows us something different. In the
midst of working, going to school, taking care of the kids, trying to please
our spouses, and handling all of the responsibilities of home life, things can
get extremely overwhelming AND
sometimes we feel like we've lost all control. Unfortunately, when we
experience pressure that we’re not used to, our attitude, behavior, and the way
we think can be all over the place. Our emotions tend to get the best of us.
As humans, we
can sometimes be selfish without even realizing that we’re doing it. It’s all
about OUR wants and OUR needs. But have you ever stopped to think about what
your spouse is going through, too? Although you’re married, you have to
remember that you’re both individual people. You both have your own personal challenges and struggles. It’s life!
Nobody’s exempt from issues.
Like reading a
good fiction, romance novel, cheating takes you to a place where you feel fulfilled,
even if it’s temporary. For that period of time you feel free! Free from the
realities of the real world. That leads me to what I would like to talk about
Loneliness and Cheating in Your
feeling lonely, huh? I get it! Your spouse isn't showing you the attention that
you desire. Your spouse isn't spending enough time with you. Your spouse doesn't make love to you the way that they used to. Your spouse is SO busy that
they miss out on the things that are TRULY important to you. Your spouse just doesn't seem to be interested in you like they used to be. You just don’t feel
appreciated, and communication is nonexistent. And when you DO try to talk, it
just ends up in a heated argument over the smallest things.
With all of this
“stuff” going on in your life, temptation is having its way with you. You’re
tempted to do some things that you know aren't right. But what the hell, right?
You’re sick of this crap and you need a break from it all.
Let Me Ask You a Question
Have you even
tried to communicate your feelings and thoughts to your spouse? Do they know
what and how you’re feeling and/or thinking about? Listen, if you don’t communicate
what you’re feeling, it’s not fair to your mate. It’s just not! If you want
something from your mate, you have the responsibility to do your part. Open your
mouth and speak up! You can’t expect your mate to know what’s going on in that
mind of yours if you don’t say anything.
No matter how difficult or painful it may be,
you have to talk about it. Communication can save a relationship from going
down a road of pain, hurt, regret, anger, and betrayal. If you’re feeling
lonely, communicate that to your partner. Set aside some quiet time where there
won’t be any distractions. Make sure that you have their full attention, keep eye contact, and ensure that they fully understand the feelings that
you’re experiencing. Don’t down play what you’re feeling. Your mate needs to
know that you need more of them. Whether it is more time, sex, attention, etc… it needs to be brought
to the table.
Seeking Comfort Elsewhere Won’t Solve
Don’t get caught
up! Temporary pleasure can turn out to be your worst nightmare. Don’t become a
victim simply because you want to feel good for the moment. You may find
yourself in a situation that you never saw coming. What you thought was
temporary, is now YOUR secret. Irresponsible choices can cost you big time!
Think it Through
Could you REALLY live with yourself if you cheated
on your partner?
Would it be
worth losing the person that you know you love and care about? Would it be worth
possibly losing your family? Would it be worth destroying his/her trust in you?
Would it be worth having to start all over again with someone who doesn't even
compare to your current spouse? Would it be worth it to see those tears in his/her
eyes? Would it be worth seeing the pain that you've caused on his/her face?
Would it be worth it to destroy everything
that you've both built together? Would it be worth it to break their heart over
your selfishness and weakness? Would it be worth it to betray the man or woman that
you promised to be faithful to? Or furthermore, would you be able to forgive
yourself, if you gave your spouse an STD? Always remember this: When you decide
to cheat, you’re taking a huge risk. A risk that could turn your life upside
Some things just aren't worth it. Think! Think about what your choices could do to you, your partner, and maybe even your family. I encourage you to be mature enough to
make the right choices. The wrong choices can literally ruin your life, and to
me, ruining your life over a quick fix is just NOT worth it! Not at all.